Welcome to Ask Your Mother

Welcome to Ask Your Mother

This podcast has been around for a long time in many different iterations, but today I’m introducing you to the new direction the show will be taking. Born out of my own inability to ask my Mom questions and have her weigh in on the most difficult things I am facing,...
Learning Attachment Styles to Grow Compassion

Learning Attachment Styles to Grow Compassion

I can’t remember when it happened first, the awareness that my behaviors as an adult were somehow linked to my experiences as a kid, but I do know it felt a bit like flying down a steep roller coaster. I was flooded with a bunch of emotions I wasn’t sure what to do...
Which Part of Me Works Best?

Which Part of Me Works Best?

I have been doing a lot of what we call “parts work” in my therapy office lately. In short, that means working with the many parts of people’s human experiences. No, this is not because my specialty is clients diagnosed with multiple personalities. It  just...
Curious: How Ted Lasso and I are the Same

Curious: How Ted Lasso and I are the Same

“Guys have underestimated me my entire life and for years I never understood why – it used to really bother me. Then one day I was driving my little boy to school, and I saw a quote by Walt Whitman, it was painted on the wall there and it said, ‘Be curious, not...
Normalizing Feeling Not Normal

Normalizing Feeling Not Normal

Anyone else find they are experiencing new sides to their personality after the last two years? Maybe it’s not a personality shift, but instead a reaction to what our persons have been through since March of 2020. I attended a wedding a few weekends ago that...
Managing Kids’ Emotions and Taking Care of You

Managing Kids’ Emotions and Taking Care of You

“Explain how that experience felt for you.”  “Where do you feel that in your body?”  I ask these questions a lot in my therapy office. Wanna know why? The first one is to keep myself from assuming. When I was in grad school, during practice sessions, I often heard...
The Importance of Traditions

The Importance of Traditions

When parents ask what is the best way to connect with their kids I have a simple answer: Tradition. When I spent the first holiday season hanging around my then-boyfriend’s parent’s house, I noticed his three little sisters stayed home one day from school...
Mom Confidence

Mom Confidence

I’ve heard all the metaphors about motherhood and animal instincts. I know what mama bears look like and how lionesses protect their young. What has taken me longer to realize is the human fierce I’ve gained from being a mother. I don’t mean fierce in the America’s...
Growing Pains

Growing Pains

I don’t remember growing pains as a child so it came as a surprise to me the first time one of my kids had them. I used to think it was just a figure of speech-growing pains. But then I had my first sleepless night with an adolescent who was writhing in pain in both...