Are you struggling with toddler or teenage tantrums? Believe it or not, whether your child is 3 or 13, tantrums are shockingly similar and can often be a message request for the same thing: connection. We’ve talked about the opposite of assuming, what I call...
What if curiosity was the cornerstone of our parenting? Once, before I was a parent and simply a zealous new teacher, I read a book about raising boys. The author had many important things to share but the one that stuck with me was the idea that boys want to share...
Do you believe the universe sends us signals? I do and man have they been coming in fast and furious lately. I’m still figuring out what to do with it, but the message is clear: Couples are struggling with raising kids in the modern world. There was the call from a...
I can’t remember when it happened first, the awareness that my behaviors as an adult were somehow linked to my experiences as a kid, but I do know it felt a bit like flying down a steep roller coaster. I was flooded with a bunch of emotions I wasn’t sure what to do...
“Guys have underestimated me my entire life and for years I never understood why – it used to really bother me. Then one day I was driving my little boy to school, and I saw a quote by Walt Whitman, it was painted on the wall there and it said, ‘Be curious, not...
“Explain how that experience felt for you.” “Where do you feel that in your body?” I ask these questions a lot in my therapy office. Wanna know why? The first one is to keep myself from assuming. When I was in grad school, during practice sessions, I often heard...
When parents ask what is the best way to connect with their kids I have a simple answer: Tradition. When I spent the first holiday season hanging around my then-boyfriend’s parent’s house, I noticed his three little sisters stayed home one day from school...
A funny thing happened a few weeks ago. I wrote a book. Actually, let me back up a few years. I didn’t just write a book last week. In 2016 I was working at a job that left me with a ton of downtime and nothing but a laptop in front of me. I had just spent a year in a...
